Archive for the ‘BDSM’ Category

Often we get folks outside of BDSM who visit our page either by chance, they see it on a friends feed or search in curiosity which is awesome and we love helping those who seek enlightenment on what BDSM truly is about. You come by choice, and that is fantastic and we welcome everyone that is here for the right reasons. It is your choice as well to not agree with this LS and leave the same way you came. If coming on to a page and commenting on thing’s you know absolutely nothing about and try to make others feel judged is going to make you feel better, then I have to say, your life is lacking in general and you should look at yourself first, find something actually productive to do vs wanting others to join you in your childish behavior.

Now, let me clear up some thing’s pertaining to comments/misconceptions/assumptions I have been seeing from those that are obviously too lazy to actually educate themselves and learn before they judge BDSM and those who belong in this community.

1) BDSM is abuse. —

Let me assure you that for those of us that actually are in this lifestyle it is by choice and BDSM is not abuse because there is consent. The moment there is no consent is the moment it no longer can be deemed BDSM. When there is abuse there is no permission granted to be abused. The abuser simply abuses WITHOUT consent. The abuser DOES NOT STOP when being asked to stop. Huge difference and very clear.

In BDSM the moment you utter a safe word all actions stop, there and then period. Safe words are there to ensure we follow the common principles guiding relationships and activities within our community commonly known as “SSC” meaning “Safe, Sane & Consensual”

Are there abuser’s masking themselves as Dominant’s? Absolutely! Just as there are abuser’s masking themselves as loving caring partner’s in ANY relationship. Our community constantly reinforces to all that if you encounter these masked abusers you use common sense just as you would in a conventional relationship and get out as soon as possible, don’t be fooled into being told that this is normal because it is BDSM. This is where learning and educating yourself is crucial when wanting to enter this LS. Do not blame the BDSM community for your own lack of using common sense and taking the time to actually learn from valid sources vs what you read in fictional novels or see in movies. Reality is never the same as fantasy folks!

2) You have no respect for yourself if you’re into BDSM. —

Actually, I LOVE myself and respect myself so much that I DON’T settle for less and live this LS because it fulfills me on all levels more so than ANY vanilla relationship(s) I have ever had. Can you say you are 100% fulfilled in yours? The difference between you and I is that I am NOT afraid to be who I am and quite honestly, who are you to have a say as to what or how I do? You’re life means nothing to me so why is everyone else so important to you to even care? Again, I would reference you back to your life lacking that your own ignorance and bitterness makes you want to drag others down with you. However I am secure enough in who I am that I find these comments laughable and I can only sit here and just *smh*

3) You must have had abuse/mental issues in your life to be into this.–

NOPE! Hate to break it to ya, but fortunately I was blessed to not have encountered any trauma’s in my life, grew up with a very loving family and have no mental disorder’s or disabilities of any sort, and guess what? There are a million folks out there just like me too! I know, shocking huh?!

4) You will never have a loving relationship in BDSM.–

Well, who guarantee’s you ever finding one in ANY lifestyle?? I have to laugh every time this is said because it ALWAYS comes from those who 1) have no clue about BDSM other than the basic “it’s all whips and chains, degradation, hard core S&M” and 2) They have no experience to be able to compare a BDSM one to a conventional relationship!

I have not had one single vanilla relationship that has been as all consuming in passion, honesty, trust, commitment, RESPECT & LOVE than I have in this LS and I would never go back to a standard one. I’d rather be single the rest of my life because in vanilla relationships there was so much missing not just in the bedroom but especially out of the bedroom where it is most important. When you take the time to learn you will see that BDSM  is not all kink,scenes & fetishes. There are much more of us in deep long term committed relationships than there are just people who do not want anything more than some kink for fun. This is a way of life for those of us that choose to live it 24/7.

In order to truly understand anything in life we must learn about it, research and educate ourselves much deeper than how thing’s may appear at face value. Until you have done that you truly cannot make an EDUCATED nor valid argument on ANYTHING!

I hope those that are visiting our page, be it by accident, curiosity or intentionally, learn some more about BDSM, not to convert you by any means, but simply so there is better understanding which will lead to acceptance of others vs assuming and many times insulting our way of life. If BDSM isn’t your thing then no problem, we are not asking you to come and interact, you are here by your own choice. You choose to stay or go but don’t disrespect and demean us while you’re here :) ~Harlow

7/30/2015

7/30/2015

Desire

Posted: July 29, 2015 by harlow2 in D/s

Her desire for Him became achingly intense with every thought, every word they spoke to each other. her need to see Him, feel Him, feel His breath against her skin again consumed her completely. ~Harlow

7/29/2015

7/29/2015

Bare myself

Posted: July 12, 2015 by harlow2 in D/s

i bare myself to You and You alone…. for You alone own me completely, mind body & soul.

~Harlow

7/11/2015

7/11/2015

Sweet Surrender

Posted: July 2, 2015 by harlow2 in D/s

The sweetest surrender is when it comes naturally, when it feels right, when you have not one single doubt or reservation within you and you simply let go. Handing all that you are over to your Dominant, knowing with every fiber of your being that you are completely safe and protected under His/Her control. For those of us who have this, never take it for granted. For those of you working towards finding this, never ever settle for anything less no matter how long it takes you find the right “one” who brings out all these magnificent feelings in you. The wait and possible heartache(s) you endure along your journey will make it all so worth it in the end. ~Harlow

7/1/2015

7/1/2015

His Power

Posted: June 30, 2015 by harlow2 in D/s

I often wonder if He is aware of the power He has over me? How intensely I crave Him to unleash His hunger for me in the most primal way, taking me, owning me, claiming me…. and then I realize…. He knows me better than I know myself. ~Harlow

6/29/2015

6/29/2015

Rope Work

Posted: June 25, 2015 by harlow2 in D/s

girl-hands-tied-bondage-glamour-dark-make-up-his-37365427For me there is something truly sensual when I think of rope work. The time, patience and masterful intricacy of it is beautiful artwork come to life. Although I have never experienced it myself but would love to at some point, I think it must be very therapeutic to be the canvas of such exquisite work, very well could also have the same affect on the artist too. ~Harlow

Just let go…

Posted: June 23, 2015 by harlow2 in D/s

There’s times in our lives that we need to simply embrace the moment and forget all reason. Let yourself go completely and never regret. ~Harlow

6/22/2015

6/22/2015

BDSM Limits Checklist

Posted: June 21, 2015 by harlow2 in D/s

BDSM CKLIST

Sweet Memories

Posted: June 20, 2015 by harlow2 in D/s

Sweet memories are what You left me with, the taste of You, the feel of Your hands as You worked them over me. The heat that drove me insane with desire still burns under the surface, smoldering over every inch of my being. You’re now gone from me but left Yourself embedded into the very core of me and will continue to burn for You until You return to me once again. ~Harlow

*Dedicated to my Daddy. I love you Daddy… Til next time <3 Your kitten *

6/19/2015

6/19/2015

Harlow’s Must Have Pick of the Month!

Posted: June 4, 2015 by harlow2 in D/s

This is my latest addition from Fabulous O and I’ve had it for about a month now. It has become one of my favorite toys and trust me when I say I am VERY picky about my toys! I have to say for the price, it is a steal! I have paid 3x as much for other vibe’s before and was left disappointed in the quality…. this one however all I can say is just WOW!! Quality is awesome, feels fantastic and lifelike and not only does it have 10 speeds but my favorite feature is that it bends and hits all the right spots!! You can thank me later ;)
~Harlow

June 2015

June 2015